Fifth Step

Know When to Surrender To surrender is to back down (from what you know is right) = Desist, Give In.
This word is key to a happy marriage. If the two do not give in, the struggle will be constant and problems in the relationship will always exist,
because there will always be decisions that both will have to make,for example,
one wants to have more children, but not the other. One wants to spend the holidays with the relatives, but not the other.
One wants the children to attend private school, the other prefers they go to public school. One thinks it's time to seek couples' advice or become more involved in the church, while the other does not.
So how do you reach a solution? Or come to an agreement? The only consequence of the actual arguments is that both will remain stubborn. But the moment one of you decides to say "I give up my opinion to do your will today",
the discussion will be over. That's why the need to know how to surrender at the right moment. Many times we know we are right,
but giving in, with time, will show the true love between the two and certainly over time this will be much easier, and obviously one does not get married to be happy, but to make the other happy and surrendering is one of the key words to accomplish this.

The most wise and loving thing you can do is to start facing your disagreements with the inclination of not always having to do things your way.
This does not necessarily mean that your spouse is right or being wise about an issue, but it means that you will be taking their opinion into account,
it is a way to appreciate them.Instead of treating your spouse as an enemy or as someone you should beware of, start treating him/her as your best and dearest friend.
Give great importance to their words. Indeed, our greatest example of surrender and true love was our Lord Jesus himself, so
Why not give up our own desires, feelings and wishes for our loved one?
We have two options: being right or making our spouse happy, and more importantly, having a stable relationship or a relationship full of ups and downs.