The Second Step to Maintaining a Happy Marriage

Let us go to the second step that helps maintain a marriage:

Adaptation

Not only in marriage, but in everyday life we relate to people of different class, levels and education.

For example, in marriage, a husband marries his wife. He is 30 years old and she is 27 years old. For 30 years, he has his own customs, ways and habits. The same with her; she has a different upbringing, customs, habits, etc... Just imagine how it will be in the beginning?
Certainly with difficulties; discovering each other, depending on each other, learning to deal with their differences and habits.
* For example, before the money was only his, now he will need to divide it.
* The young woman who had someone do everything for her, will now have to do everything for her husband and herself
* Before the relationship was all flowers, he was romantic, had nice words for her, always gave her gifts, etc... Now the young man is more reasonable, and the young woman, as always, sentimental forgets that in time this will all change. It's not that it won’t happen again, but certainly less often than before.

And when you get to this point, a mistake tends to occur with some couples: They only see the flaws. They blame each other, say unpleasant things and eventually the marriage is destroyed. Only seeing each other’s mistakes, that’s how it starts and then it is hard to go back. That’s why it is very important for women to seek wisdom in God during the adaptation stage; to speak at the appropriate time, to be loving, to think more about giving than receiving, to look for the presence of God, and little by little, the adaptation is happening, and every day she will overcome a different situation and learn to depend on God.
If we look for flaws in others, we will surely find many, but will also find many qualities. In life, there are always situations and their analysis will depend on our vision and relationship with God. There are situations that exist only in our minds and in our eyes. When we try to look at things from another angle, everything changes and you have another perception, we have another point of view.
It is difficult to express love when there is little or no reason. But love, in its essence, is not based on feelings. Rather, it is the nature of love to be considerate and caring, even when it seems that there is no reward. Demonstrating affection when your spouse does not expect it, will awaken a lot of love in the relationship and undo all the negative that exists between the two, but you will need action.

"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." (Proverbs 14:1)

Wise or Foolish? Supernatural Faith or Natural Faith?

A women of God can change any situation in her family, work, at school, if only she is depending completely on the Holy Spirit, depend on Him, not her husband, her family, her father, her mother, its only keeping her lamp lit and full of oil. For example, the Bible shows us: At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish and five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them.The wise ones, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep. At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here’s the bridegroom! Come out to meet him! “Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out. '‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves. “But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut. “Later the others also came. ‘Lord, Lord,’ they said, ‘open the door for us! “But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I don’t know you. “Therefore keep watch, because you do not know the day or the hour. Matthew 25

While 5 were wise, 5 were foolish, the wise are those who: pray, fast, does not look at the life of others, they are not in gossip, they watch their mouth, they look for the wisdom of God, have daily communion with the Holy Spirit , used their faith daily, they sacrifice because they already know the outcome, or rather she lives in the dependence of the living God and holds daily communion with Him, always concerned about filling her lamp, because if He is coming she will be ready but unlike the senseless lives according to her wishes, she is not humble, she thinks that she is always right, acts without wisdom, and brings bad witness to others, she has malice in everything, evil thoughts, always judge others, she always have an excuse for everything. She can never participate in things of the church, she is never faithful in her promises, and yet she does not sacrifice because she doubts and knowing that she doubts in the power of God and does not obey she know she will not be answered so then, she gives a good offering, but never the true sacrifice, her lamp will be off in a matter of time. When she arrived at the church she acted as a person of faith but today because of the lack of oil she lives like the unbelievers, or rather there is not a difference in her life and the life of a unbeliever, she does not have the mark of God.
Our faith is the most important thing we have in our lives, it is our faith that leads us to the path of conquest, of the changes, of the total transformation of life, but mostly of our salvation. We need to overcome all our enemies of faith daily, which are many: time, doubt, deception, lack of obedience, lack of wisdom, fear, and many others, but the worst of them all it's ourselves, when we do not obey God's voice which is the voice of faith within each and everyone of us ...

We can choose our future, how will next year be and change it through supernatural faith, but if we make wise decisions, today, obeying and changing what we must change, how do we want something different when we continue with same attitudes?