The Second Step to Maintaining a Happy Marriage

Let us go to the second step that helps maintain a marriage:

Adaptation

Not only in marriage, but in everyday life we relate to people of different class, levels and education.

For example, in marriage, a husband marries his wife. He is 30 years old and she is 27 years old. For 30 years, he has his own customs, ways and habits. The same with her; she has a different upbringing, customs, habits, etc... Just imagine how it will be in the beginning?
Certainly with difficulties; discovering each other, depending on each other, learning to deal with their differences and habits.
* For example, before the money was only his, now he will need to divide it.
* The young woman who had someone do everything for her, will now have to do everything for her husband and herself
* Before the relationship was all flowers, he was romantic, had nice words for her, always gave her gifts, etc... Now the young man is more reasonable, and the young woman, as always, sentimental forgets that in time this will all change. It's not that it won’t happen again, but certainly less often than before.

And when you get to this point, a mistake tends to occur with some couples: They only see the flaws. They blame each other, say unpleasant things and eventually the marriage is destroyed. Only seeing each other’s mistakes, that’s how it starts and then it is hard to go back. That’s why it is very important for women to seek wisdom in God during the adaptation stage; to speak at the appropriate time, to be loving, to think more about giving than receiving, to look for the presence of God, and little by little, the adaptation is happening, and every day she will overcome a different situation and learn to depend on God.
If we look for flaws in others, we will surely find many, but will also find many qualities. In life, there are always situations and their analysis will depend on our vision and relationship with God. There are situations that exist only in our minds and in our eyes. When we try to look at things from another angle, everything changes and you have another perception, we have another point of view.
It is difficult to express love when there is little or no reason. But love, in its essence, is not based on feelings. Rather, it is the nature of love to be considerate and caring, even when it seems that there is no reward. Demonstrating affection when your spouse does not expect it, will awaken a lot of love in the relationship and undo all the negative that exists between the two, but you will need action.

"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." (Proverbs 14:1)

The Prayer associated with wisdom

After many experiences with God, and His fidelity through the answered prayers, we are able to say yes, prayer works! As each day goes by, we learn more but it isn’t always easy to learn how to stay in prayer while waiting for God to take control of the situation. I learned how to do this a long time ago, when I was facing a very difficult situation, and God spoke with me, allowing me to understand that my anxiety would only delay my blessings. When we are anxious, we are also creating room for doubts and doubts are the enemy of our faith, so I decided to let God act in my life and to take full control. Many times, when we speak to God about a problem and then say that we place it in His hands, time passes and our problems don’t seem to be resolved. What happens then, we end up trying to resolve it with our own hands. For example; when a husband begins to change his behavior in a negative way, which does not please God, or if a son or daughter begins to show signs of bad behavior, we trust in God through prayer, but after a certain time if we do not see results, we decide to take action in our own hands. We begin to complain, argue and even begin to speak things we should not say. When this occurs, God is not be able to do much more, since we decided to take action upon our hands. It is as if we are removing the problem from the hands of God and placing it in our own hands. At that moment, our prayer loses power. When we try to control our husbands or children with a huge list of things that we would like to see in them, we are acting wrongfully. We should never place our expectations on a person to change for themselves, or expect that he/she is going to change immediately, we should place our expectations in God, trusting that He is going to work in the life of that person and by His power, that person is going to be transformed. Sometimes, things that we may say or do can damage the plan that God has for us, therefore the best thing to do is to keep silent and pray. When we completely trust in the action of the Holy Spirit, everything changes. The form in which we see things can change and become clearer. A prayer associated with wisdom can do marvelous things and you can be sure, we have authority to stop evil from entering our lives and permit for the goodness of God to enter. Prayer is the supreme language of love, and through prayer when we use our authority, we are allowing God to transform our lives. God Bless!!!