The Second Step to Maintaining a Happy Marriage

Let us go to the second step that helps maintain a marriage:

Adaptation

Not only in marriage, but in everyday life we relate to people of different class, levels and education.

For example, in marriage, a husband marries his wife. He is 30 years old and she is 27 years old. For 30 years, he has his own customs, ways and habits. The same with her; she has a different upbringing, customs, habits, etc... Just imagine how it will be in the beginning?
Certainly with difficulties; discovering each other, depending on each other, learning to deal with their differences and habits.
* For example, before the money was only his, now he will need to divide it.
* The young woman who had someone do everything for her, will now have to do everything for her husband and herself
* Before the relationship was all flowers, he was romantic, had nice words for her, always gave her gifts, etc... Now the young man is more reasonable, and the young woman, as always, sentimental forgets that in time this will all change. It's not that it won’t happen again, but certainly less often than before.

And when you get to this point, a mistake tends to occur with some couples: They only see the flaws. They blame each other, say unpleasant things and eventually the marriage is destroyed. Only seeing each other’s mistakes, that’s how it starts and then it is hard to go back. That’s why it is very important for women to seek wisdom in God during the adaptation stage; to speak at the appropriate time, to be loving, to think more about giving than receiving, to look for the presence of God, and little by little, the adaptation is happening, and every day she will overcome a different situation and learn to depend on God.
If we look for flaws in others, we will surely find many, but will also find many qualities. In life, there are always situations and their analysis will depend on our vision and relationship with God. There are situations that exist only in our minds and in our eyes. When we try to look at things from another angle, everything changes and you have another perception, we have another point of view.
It is difficult to express love when there is little or no reason. But love, in its essence, is not based on feelings. Rather, it is the nature of love to be considerate and caring, even when it seems that there is no reward. Demonstrating affection when your spouse does not expect it, will awaken a lot of love in the relationship and undo all the negative that exists between the two, but you will need action.

"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." (Proverbs 14:1)

Virtuous woman vs. Common Woman

When a virtuous woman is wrong, she says: "I was wrong" and learns her lesson. When a common woman is wrong or makes a mistake, she says: "Not my fault" and blames others.

A virtuous woman knows that adversity is the best teacher. A common woman will always feel victim to adversity.

A virtuous woman knows that the outcome of things depends on her sacrifice. The common woman feels helpless and always depends on others.

A virtuous woman works hard and always makes time for everything. The common woman is always "very busy" and never has time for anything.

A virtuous woman faces challenges one by one. A common woman is afraid of challenges and does not dare to face them.

A virtuous woman agrees, gives her word and delivers on what is promised. The common woman makes promises, but does not keep them and only knows how to justify herself when she fails.

A virtuous woman says: "I need to be more virtuous every day". The common woman says: "I'm not so bad, there are many worse than me."

A virtuous woman listens, understands and responds. A common woman does not wait for her turn to speak.

A virtuous woman respects those who know more than her and is always looking to learn something from them. A common woman resists all those who know more than her and is always looking for flaws in them.

A virtuous woman feels responsible for something and gives her all. A common woman is not compromised and says: "I do what I'm given".

A virtuous woman says: "There must be a better way to do this ...". A common woman says: "We always do this. There is no other way."

A virtuous woman always tries to see the good in others. A common woman only sees the negative side.

A virtuous woman builds her house because her attitudes are based on the thoughts of God. A common woman destroys her home with her own hands, through attitudes based on feelings.

A virtuous woman knows that "all things work for good for those who love the Lord". A common woman sees injustice and inequality whenever she is "affected."

A virtuous woman is PART OF THE SOLUTION. The common woman is PART OF THE PROBLEM.

A virtuous woman, like yourself, will read this, feel happy and try to improve. A common woman will read this and be indifferent because she thinks she is fine the way she is and does not need to change.