Key Steps to Maintain a Marriage

I have received emails asking for guidance in relation to marriage, marital problems, married relationships, etc. Taking into account the need to address this issue because many people get married but have great difficulty in staying married. They love each other, but their daily relationship is compromised by the lack of some key steps that really helps us to maintain a happy marriage. Everyone knows it’s not hard to get married; it’s hard to stay married.

Before the first step, I wanted to share with you a phrase that I heard which blessed me:
"Do not get married to be happy, but to make someone else happy"

Several steps will be addressed:

First step: Patience

What does this mean?

Patience is the virtue that bears evil and wrongdoings without whining or rebellion, the quality of those who calmly wait. That is when you are patient with your spouse, you demonstrate discretion, instead of taking an eye for an eye, you take control of your emotions instead of them controlling you.
For example, most of the time when a spouse does something to displease the other, the will of the flesh is to get payback and do the same, for example: He cheated, so she then cheats, he doesn’t praise her, so she doesn’t praise him, he doesn’t pay attention to her, so she doesn’t pay attention to him, but we have discovered that patience is the best medicine, because taking an eye for an eye will not solve your problems, otherwise nobody would get married in this world.
On the other hand, patience makes us wise. She is not quick to judge, but listens to what the other person is saying. It is very important to learn to listen before reaching hasty conclusions that you will regret later. Be patient, listen first, and then talk. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you might regret later. Because he who speaks sows and he who listens reaps. Many of the things you say today, you probably will forget by tomorrow, but the person who hears it from you, will never forget, and this will produce deep scars and disappointments that could lead to separation, i.e., our words can cause life or death depending on how we use them.
Same way the lack of patience will turn your home into a war zone, the practice of patience will stimulate peace and harmony.
Wise men and women will see patience as an essential ingredient in marriage.
This is a good starting point to demonstrate true love.
The Bible says: "Whoever is patient has great understanding, but the one who is quick-tempered displays folly" (Proverbs 14:29). "A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel" (Proverbs 15:18).

How the medicine can help you?

We should always take care of our health. Eat healthy meals and exercise so we don’t fall into an inactive lifestyle, thus avoiding future diseases and becoming slaves to medication. Particularly, I never wanted to use medications, and always noticed that medicine affected my body instead of helping it, until I was completely healed by the power of God. Typically, medications cure a problem but end up causing others.
When we see the side effects that come along with prescriptions, we notice many negative ones that can damage our health. Medicine becomes a necessary evil. Dr. Ghislaine lost her medical license because of her book “The Medical Mafia". She says that she began to notice that most people did not respond to medical treatment. She affirms there’s a manipulation by doctors, future doctors, students and says: "Medicine is essentially a business." As she said in an interview for a website: "The strategy is, in short, to have chronically ill people who have to take all kinds of medicines, i.e. to treat symptoms only, medication to relieve pain, lower fever, reduce inflammation.... but never medicine that may cure an illness. It is not profitable, so it’s of no interest. Modern medicine is designed for people to stay sick as long as possible and always buy prescriptions. The system is there to serve the patient but, in reality, it’s under the command of the industry. It is what pulls the strings and keeps the health system to its advantage. It is, in short, a real medical mafia, a system that creates disease and kills for money and power” says Dr. Ghislaine.
You are the real doctor to yourself, when you take care of your health from an early age. When we are aware of our control over our health and know the power of supernatural faith. When we look in the Bible: “He took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows" (Isaiah 53:4). We see that He took away our diseases, so we must use supernatural faith, be dependent on God and independent from the system.
The system works for us to forget our status as supreme beings dependent on God. Also, for us to forget the promise of healing in the Bible and become submissive to the system that controls the world.
But in our hands is "the power to break that bondage." Doctors are also used by God, but we can not place all our trust in men. When we place our trust in God, we are no longer slaves to this world, and we become free from a controlled system.

Next time, we will talk about the testimony of a person who spent horrible times in regards to health, but through faith, she was free from medicine and dependent on God, obtaining a complete recovery.