Why give a second chance?

We make many mistakes with others, but expect others to understand when we are wrong. There are different reasons why we make mistakes: lack of wisdom, lack of discernment, lack of understanding, our age, education , etc... Well, there are many reasons, but we expect forgiveness and understanding from those who suffer the damage. Still, when someone does something wrong to us, we don’t see that the person also had many reasons for a poor behavior. We need to understand and forgive. Most of the time, when we see others make mistakes, we distance ourselves. We judge instead of helping that person whose conduct was wrong. I made many mistakes in this aspect. Too many times I had people by my side with a bad behavior and I judged them and walked away, instead of sitting with them and at least try to help. We end up not giving them a second chance.
And why should we give them a second chance? Why expect others to give us that second chance? Just imagine how many relationships are destroyed daily between husbands and wives, sons and daughters, friends, simply for not to trying to help and forgive, instead of walking away...
Surely there are people who really have a difficult temper, and many times we even want to help, but they don’t accept it and sometimes become our enemy. However, it's important that we try to help because the Bible teaches us "Let us not become weary in doing good..."
Sometimes we forgive, but we don’t give that person a second chance. In other words, we forgive, but not wholeheartedly. And without realizing it, we see them in a bad light and never truly believe they can change their character. I realized that I too made mistakes in the past for different reasons and there were few people and "friends" who gave me a second chance. This made me think: What if Jesus had given up on us because of our behavior? How many times did He use someone to open our eyes but we didn’t see? How many times did He show his power through a servant, but we didn’t value that anointment? How much patience He had with us in understanding our weaknesses, our sins? How many times He looked upon us and saw our qualities, not our failures? If he had looked at our flaws, he probably would have distanced himself from us, and we wouldn’t be his servants today.

How many second chances God gave us so that we could learn humility, servitude, good character, truth and sincerity? Can you imagine if Jesus had given up on us when he saw our cold hearts, our bad behavior, our lack of knowledge? We would have never met him. And this is how we really know a person, by looking at and helping with their mistakes, their flaws and also learning their qualities. Because if we turn our backs when we see their mistakes, how can we help or give them a second chance? Isn’t that how God calls us? "Come as you are..."

I thank God for accepting me as I was: full of sins, mistakes, flaws, weaknesses, and for giving me a second chance. Through his mercy and love, our sins are erased, giving us daily the opportunity that man doesn’t.

Like David, who had a great sin, and suffered the consequences, but also achieved the mercy and forgiveness of God. He is the only man in the Bible described as having a heart according to God’s own heart.

"Man looks at the outward appearance, the Lord looks at the heart" 1 Samuel 16:7